It’s rare to wake up one morning and decide it’s time to change your life.
Quite often, there is a chain of events leading up to that point when we finally decide that “enough is enough”.
If we’re honest, the signs are always there but we choose to ignore them. After all, it’s easier to maintain the status quo rather than rock the boat, isn’t it?
But if you’re feeling restless in one or more areas of your life or disconnected and disinterested in the simple pleasures that you once enjoyed, then it could be time to make a life changing decision.
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.
~ Jim Rohn
As Jim Rohn says, if you want a better life, you need to make a change.
This life change doesn’t have to be painful or extreme. Your life may not require major heart surgery – although sometimes an amputation, to continue the medical metaphor, may be called for. In most cases though, a simple nip-and-tuck will do.
Here are 6 signs that you need to change your life.
1. You dread Mondays
This is more relevant if you have a job, but it still applies if you have chosen a different career path such as working as a freelancer, consultant or running your own business.
The bottom line is, it’s not what you do but how you feel about it.
Because if you have a constant gnawing feeling in your belly it could be a sign that job isn’t for you.
I know that feeling so, so well.
I carried this knot inside me for years as I dragged myself to work, fought through busy commuter traffic and spent my days doing tasks I disliked with co-workers I’d never have socialised with given the choice.
According to a recent Gallup poll, 70 percent of people hate their job, or at best, are “completely disengaged” from it
This is a frightening – and very sad – statistic.
So, if your “Monday Blues” are more than being unhappy that the weekend is over and they persist for days, weeks, months, possibly years, please don’t tolerate it.
It isn’t natural or normal to forsake your dreams for a career. You have greatness inside you and this restlessness could be pointing you towards this.
2. You worry a lot
Feeling anxious, worried and stressed more often than not? Do you feel run down each time you think about your work, family, relationships, money – your whole life even?
It may surprise you to learn that worrying is not your normal state.
This is very hard for many people to accept. They don’t understand that life was never meant to be a struggle. Especially if struggle is all they’ve known for years. For them, happiness is an occasional occurrence not a state they can choose every single day.
So, if you’re worrying habit is more than occasional, I urge you to look at this. It’s not healthy. It’s a sign that you need to change your life before the situation escalates.
Have you stopped to figure out what’s bothering you? Sometimes pinpointing the stress trigger can motivate you to take action and make some much-needed changes.
Evaluate your habits, routines and the people you spend most of your time with. Chances are if they’re unhappy and depressed, it’s rubbing off onto you.
The answer is probably staring you in the face so once you know what it is, do something about it.
3. You’re always tired
Have you ever woken up from what you thought was a restful night’s sleep, only to find yourself more tired than before you went to bed?
Fatigue is a common issue, one that affects a lot of people, especially women.
Maybe we feel we have to keep it all together – the career, the family, the home, the social life and so on? This leaves precious little time for anything else so it’s not surprising exhaustion creeps in.
Yet did you know that the human body contains a huge amount of energy, enough to power a one-tonne battery?
So, if you’re always feeling tired it’s not because you lack energy. More than likely you’re wasting your energy or you’re not harnessing it properly.
During my lawsuit I was constantly tired and foggy-brained no matter how well I slept or how healthy I ate. I put it down to stress but a chance blood test revealed that I was badly anaemic.
You see, I’ve been a vegetarian for over 20 years but never realised that my iron levels were dangerously low. Even though I was eating well, I wasn’t getting enough of this essential mineral from my diet. Add to that my monthly cycle and it’s no wonder I was exhausted all the time.
In fact, fatigue had become my new normal for so long that I was stunned when after just 2 DAYS of taking an iron supplement, I had bags of energy and more clarity than ever before.
That’s why I urge you not to ignore your tiredness or it could get worse. You may find, like me, that you only need to make some simple changes to your life. Sitting too much, not exercising enough, poor sleeping habits, stress, a lack of purpose, worrying excessively and poor nutrition are just a few things that can leave you feeling depleted.
4. You’re easily distracted
Do you ever find yourself midway through a task, only to find yourself 30 minutes later surfing social media and planning what you’re going to do at the weekend?
This is a typical sign of escapism or procrastination. It’s how you put off taking action on the things that matter. Those things you know you ought to do. The very things that could change your life.
So, if you spend most of your time distracting yourself with the niceties of life, busy work, the stuff that comes easy like going out, planning your next break, daydreaming about your future or dwelling too much on your past, you’re not being present.
What is it you’re not facing up to?
My advice is to spend some time getting to the bottom of this. It could lead to some pretty life-changing decisions.
5. You’ve gained weight
Have you ever gone to try on your favourite outfit, only to find that it didn’t quite fit as well as it once had? Do you find yourself eating or drinking more than you need in times of stress to help you cope with the weight of your responsibility (pun intended)?
No one likes to be out of shape.
It’s human nature to judge others by their appearance and first impressions do count.
Even if you look ok, most of us want to be healthy, look our best and feel great at any age. We want to be able to run around with our kids and grandkids. It’s also very empowering to look a million dollars whenever the occasion calls for it.
Weight gain can creep up on you without you even realising and shouldn’t be ignored because it’s often pointing to a deeper issue.
For instance, I used to be a petite size 8UK (Size 4US). At just 5’4” this is the right size for me and I stayed this way for many years thanks to a healthy, active lifestyle.
Then I hit a few bumps in the road, stopped exercising and ballooned to a size 14UK (Size 10US).
Although I wasn’t obese, this weight gain affected my confidence and caused other health problems. When I looked deeper into it, I traced the steady decline in my health back to self-neglect.
For years, I’d put everyone and everything in my life first – except me! This couldn’t go on so I began a radical process of self-care.
I’ve now addressed all of my health concerns and released most of the extra weight.
So, if you’ve put on more pounds than you’d like, change your eating habits and join the gym by all means, but be sure to find out what’s really eating you.
Many of us struggle to curb our bad habits. This is often a sign that we’re unhappy in some area of our life. That may be the case for you or it could be the early warning signs of a health issue that you need to get checked out.
This understanding together with the outward actions you do will help you achieve your goals faster and more sustainably than the simple actions alone.
6. You’re quick to anger or annoy
Are you often short of patience in situations that didn’t used to affect you? Do you find yourself getting caught up in dramas that would usually go straight over your head?
Feeling short tempered or annoyed with little provocation is a big sign that there’s something much larger at play.
So before you lose your temper over whether or not the coffee is colder than you’d like, or scream at the bad driver in front of you or the noisy neighbour next door, stop for a moment.
Is it really them?
Or is it you?
Think about what’s really at the root of the problem before you blow a fuse. Quite often, there’s some dysfunction or lack in our own lives that we project onto others.
It could be something as simple as a lack of sleep or overwork that’s making you irritable. On the other hand, it could be that you’re avoiding making a bigger life decision. Take a deep breath and think about where you need to change your life.
Whether you can identify with all or just one of the above scenarios it’s pretty clear that we get presented with nudges on our journey through life. We can choose to ignore these signs or take heed and make the adjustments.
In my life, I’ve found that I can only ignore things for so long. Issues rarely go away by themselves and for things to change, you really do have to change.
So, if you want to change your life for the better and achieve the dreams and goals you set for yourself, I encourage you to do it sooner rather than later.
Over To You
Do any of these 6 signs resonate with you? If so, what are you doing to change your life? Please comment and share below.